Intimate Wellness Massage Guides

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Intimate wellness is about feeling comfortable, relaxed and connected in your own body, and with a partner if you have one. These guides explain gentle, non-explicit massage for intimate areas and sensual partner massage, with a steady focus on consent, comfort, hygiene and safety.

Everything here is written for adults and is for general education, not medical advice. If you have pain, bleeding, unusual discharge, a new lump or any symptom that worries you, talk to your doctor before trying massage.

For women

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For men

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For couples and partners

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Sensual massage styles explained

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Massage tools and intimacy

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A few ground rules

  • Consent first, and keep checking in. Agree on what’s okay before you start, and stop whenever either of you wants to.
  • Clean hands, short nails. Wash your hands and any tools before and after.
  • Go gentle. Intimate skin is delicate. Use light pressure and an unscented, skin-safe massage oil on external skin only, and patch-test anything new.
  • Stop if it hurts. Pain, burning, bleeding or numbness are signs to stop and check in with a doctor.

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